Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Blessings in disguise



It’s easy to focus on all the negative things that come from losing a baby, but have you discovered any ‘blessings in disguise’ throughout your journey? What can you find to be thankful for related to your loss?

Losing a child absolutely is the worst thing that can ever happen to a person, but I really do believe that even in the midst of such a tragic event, good things can happen. Perhaps I feel that way because I am the eternal optimist.

My children have touched my life so immensely and forever changed who I am. I wholeheartedly believe that their lives have made me a better person. I wish that I didn't have to live this life without them but this is the path that I was given. All I can do is just try to walk it the best that I can.

I am thankful that they existed, even if for a short time. They have made my faith stronger and unshakable. There is nothing in this world that could ever break it.

I am thankful that I knew ahead of time that Carleigh wouldn't live. It was a blessing to be able to treasure the time we had left together and to make plans for her. It also allowed us to get many keepsakes and photos and for that I am thankful.

I am thankful for the many family, friends, and even complete strangers who gave us love and support through our whole journey and even now.

I am thankful for God's love and forgiveness even when I don't deserve it.

I am thankful for and blessed to have a wonderful husband and beautiful children that grace both Heaven and earth.

I am blessed to be able to know and help others who have lost.

I am blessed to know that my children have touched the lives of others.

I am blessed to know that one day I will be reunited with Carleigh and Jordan and I will be able to hold them for eternity.

It's hard to completely describe my life now compared to before. I was changed after Jordan and then changed again after Carleigh. The road hasn't been without bumps but with God by my side I know I can get through anything.

12 comments:

{:miss v:} said...

Beautiful post. I'm so thankful the Lord is by your side as well and what a great thing to look forward to in holding your children again someday in heaven.

Molly's Grandma said...

Holly, I am so proud to know you. Just look how far you've come. You are able to acknowledge the pain that comes from the loss of a child and to know that on the other side of darkness is God's love and hope. Perhaps Andy is watching over Carleigh and Jordan. Our God is an awesome God! Love, Beth

Lauren said...

Amen sister!!! I love this post! I usually feel this same way. I've discovered so many blessings that have occurred since my Green Beans entered this world. Although it can be unbarabely hard, it's still a blessing in disguise.

Sarita Boyette said...

You have said it so beautifully! Yes, good does come from heartache. Without you and others sharing your grief, I, for one, would have not received important lessons in grieving. Thank you for sharing your loss with us - I appreciate all you do !

mary said...

Il n'est pas important de savoir d'où on vient mais de savoir où on va !!!

Lisette said...

Nicely said..

AKD said...

So absolutely lovely.

Sydney said...

Your blog is a beautiful, and so are your children :) I lost my daughter, Claire, on October 28, 2010 due to an incompetent cervix. I've been suffering, as all mommies of angels do, and have found such solace in knowing that there is community, support and most importantly, friendship that can be found in a situation like this. I worry about what my life will be like without her, I question how I am supposed to make it through one day let alone decades when she is not present. So blogs like yours serve as an inspiration by sending a message that we can remember and live, that we don't have to forget our babies to start the process of moving forward. I wanted to say thank you for your blog, for your words and for your pictures. I am trying to do the same for Claire at www.letterstoclaire.com and am also trying to reach out to mommies like you because in the short time since Claire has passed, I look around and see that no one else can understand except those that have, regrettably, been there too..

Karen said...

Beautiful thoughts and beautiful heart of thankfulness!

Jess said...

What a beautiful post, Holly. It's amazing how the most difficult and heart-breaking situations can also bring about an unexplainable strengthening of faith in God, and a new perspective on his blessings and love in our lives. It can be hard sometimes to see the good that is intermingled with the pain, but it really is there and you bring that to mind in this post.

croleyc69 said...

Beautiful post and I'm thankful to have you for a friend. You have been a great help to me and my family loves you so much. I will always remember your Carleigh and Jordan with you.
What a beautiful time Heaven will be for all of us.

{{HUGS}}
Caroline

elena said...

Beautiful post. I am glad that you had so many blessings and I agree with you that in the midst good things can still happen.

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