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On Friday night Anthony and I (along with the girls) went to a remembrance ceremony for October 15th. It was the first year that this one was held. We met up with our friends Josh & Jenny at the event. They lost their daughter Kayden (who also had anencephaly) not long after we lost Carleigh.
I didn’t get to take as many pictures as I had wanted because little miss Lainey decided she was hungry almost the entire time. So the only pictures I got were ones that Anthony took. I had wanted to get a picture of the 4 of us but it didn’t happen.
I was glad that I was able to wear my memorial brooch by Franchesca to the ceremony. I love it!
They had the ceremony at a park in one of the pavilions. It got a little chilly toward the end but overall it wasn’t bad. Inside the pavilion it was lit up with lights and candles. It was peaceful and pretty. They had snacks and drinks. I didn’t have any but Kyndra had some cookies and a cupcake.
They had stars that we could write our baby/babies’ names and stick in the ground.
We all had the opportunity to go up to the main table and share our stories and our babies and then light our candles that we had from the main candle from the table. What was funny was when we were up front and shared and went to light our candles Kyndra tried blowing out the main candle. Luckily she doesn’t have a lot of wind behind her effort so it didn’t do anything.
They handed out a small candle to each of the families in attendance before everyone left. Attached to the candles was a little card and on the card was this poem:
Because of You by J. Melia
Because of you I appreciate the sunset more than before.
Because of you I stop to look up at the moon and wish upon a star.
Because of you I look forward to hearing the birds sing in the morning, and thank God for their beautiful songs.
Because of you I am more understanding of others and accept people for who they are.
Because of you material things do not matter.
Because of you the touch of someone you love is more precious than any gift you can receive.
Because of you I have a broken heart but I thank God for sending you to me.
For there is no stronger love than I hold for you.
Until we meet again.
I’m really glad that we went to the ceremony. It was our first year going to something like this and I definitely want to do it again next year. Maybe we can even do more than one.
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief…and unspeakable love. ~Washington Irving
