tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post4280164152118144973..comments2023-11-16T07:27:50.279-05:00Comments on Caring for Carleigh: Learning to comfort in my own griefHollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-61708205410433315782010-01-25T00:39:59.324-05:002010-01-25T00:39:59.324-05:00What a beautiful post, Holly. I can just envision ...What a beautiful post, Holly. I can just envision the scenario in my mind. This reminds me of one of my favorite prayers, one that I try to live by, I'm posting it here for you. <br /><br />Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi<br />Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.<br />Where there is hatred, let me sow love;<br />where there is injury,pardon;<br />where there is doubt, faith;<br />where there is despair, hope;<br />where there is darkness, light;<br />and where there is sadness, joy.<br /><br /><br />O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek<br />to be consoled as to console;<br />to be understood as to understand;<br />to be loved as to love.<br />For it is in giving that we receive;<br />it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;<br />and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. AmenSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05960892611836565778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-58164306832058939572010-01-20T02:36:50.945-05:002010-01-20T02:36:50.945-05:00I feel exactly the same on Sundays at church. For...I feel exactly the same on Sundays at church. For some reason, I let go of all of my emotions. I cry during service; a lot. I always think about my son, and lose it. But it's therapeutic. I am in the safest place in the world, with my Christian brothers and sisters, letting go of my pain and sorrow. I think it's good for us! And I am so glad that you got to feel the joy of helping others. It is amazing how God truly uses us to do His work with our lives. I only hope I can be someday what you were for this woman. God bless you, best wishes!Trevor's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01287314168209187868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-46158262465522031282010-01-18T16:55:53.875-05:002010-01-18T16:55:53.875-05:00i love that you were there for her, to offer that ...i love that you were there for her, to offer that hug. a beautiful moment that i am sure she will remember.Once A Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15974149780531831971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-64326893457041756242010-01-15T16:59:26.648-05:002010-01-15T16:59:26.648-05:00It always helps you when you can help someone else...It always helps you when you can help someone else.<br /><br />I have a hard time not feeling bad for myself too. It's very big of you to realise that is what you are doing. I dont...and then I get mad at Landon when he points it out. Ugh. <br /><br />For me, church is where I feel closest to God. I suppose it is that closeness that causes me to just dump all that I'm holding inside. It literally pours at times and I just cant hold it in.<br /><br />I'm so glad you found a friend you can help!Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08934057308054901761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-25613117964510782422010-01-15T16:50:22.776-05:002010-01-15T16:50:22.776-05:00Holly you may not really know it but you do help o...Holly you may not really know it but you do help others all the time. I am so blessed to have you as a friend. You always take the time to comment on my post or on FB and I really appreciate that, more than you know. You have inspired me and have helped me so much on my loss journey. <br /><br />I also feel the same about certain days of the week, Monday's are my emotional days. I love reading your blog because it really makes me feel like I am not alone, what I feel is normal. I hate that we had to meet under this circumstance however I still feel blessed. <br />Sending ((HUGS)) your way!Lisettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486760107232191431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-22634661860169594902010-01-15T15:50:39.011-05:002010-01-15T15:50:39.011-05:00Church is hard for me too, glad I'm not the on...Church is hard for me too, glad I'm not the only one. I feel a lot more vunerable, I think that is part of it. <br /><br />Kudos for comforting the lady at church too!Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06295293307771882688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-87601255384427287912010-01-15T12:53:32.018-05:002010-01-15T12:53:32.018-05:00You have such a large capacity to love. I adore yo...You have such a large capacity to love. I adore you. <br /><br />xo M.Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10497823064126116308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-56331004198559305602010-01-14T21:43:17.361-05:002010-01-14T21:43:17.361-05:00Sweet story Holly, I am glad you shared this :) A...Sweet story Holly, I am glad you shared this :) And I agree that time doesn't heal all wounds, as we will feel this forever, it will just get a little easier to weave into our daily lives. Hugs, Nan xoNan & Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04379229157112328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-38338809650630279872010-01-14T16:50:55.090-05:002010-01-14T16:50:55.090-05:00Beautiful! We now know how to comfort because we w...Beautiful! We now know how to comfort because we were comforted!<br /><br />What a beautiful testimony=)!Gottjoy!https://www.blogger.com/profile/16122254540480281334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-80362511544509571742010-01-14T11:43:39.008-05:002010-01-14T11:43:39.008-05:00A hug is a wonderful feeling. I am glad you were a...A hug is a wonderful feeling. I am glad you were able to reach out to someone. I too sometimes am throwing myself the pity party. But, when I let it go and allow myself to focus on others I feel so much better.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-4606532992643747062010-01-13T16:32:54.045-05:002010-01-13T16:32:54.045-05:00What a comfort you were to that young lady. God i...What a comfort you were to that young lady. God is using you...through your grief too. AWesome how that works, you will touch many lives.He & Me + 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03692972824923390203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-63595580393364139772010-01-13T13:08:08.574-05:002010-01-13T13:08:08.574-05:00I feel the same way when I go to church. I lost my...I feel the same way when I go to church. I lost my baby on Oct. 23 of 2009. I was 16 weeks along. I was os excited to be having another child nad was shocked when I was in my second trimester and started spotting. I go to church adn feel o.k. while i am there but then I go home nad am a wreck for the rest of the day. I am so tired of hurting an dtrying to be o.k. I feel like a freak for not moving on but i just can't. So glad i found your blog.<br />SusanSusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07442121745875161439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-88533554585144775412010-01-13T12:25:45.360-05:002010-01-13T12:25:45.360-05:00My children and some friends of mine ask me how I ...My children and some friends of mine ask me how I do it, they don't understand how I can just walk over and put my arms around someone that I don't know. It is so simple and so rewarding. When I worked at Hallmark and someone would come in who was obviously in pain I would ask them what happened and how can I help. I'm so glad you did that.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-73433867984760755192010-01-13T10:54:41.606-05:002010-01-13T10:54:41.606-05:00I'm glad you found a little peace and a friend...I'm glad you found a little peace and a friend Sunday. If I lived closer I would give you a hug anytime you needed one.MommyIvyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08138273897085235441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-65640283183752699862010-01-13T08:54:52.202-05:002010-01-13T08:54:52.202-05:00You really hit the nail on the head in your first ...You really hit the nail on the head in your first paragraph. Nothing, nothing at all can fill the void left by our babies. <br /><br />I know what you mean about church too. We go to a really large church, and we started going there right before I found out I was pregnant. Since I spent so much time last year gone and in the hospital, we don't know a single person. Not even one. Sometimes I like the anonymity, sometimes I miss going to a smaller church. But anyway, I do know what you mean about those feelings being stronger. I think being at church is always a bit of an emotional experience, and when we have something so largely emotional in our lives, it compounds it.<br /><br />Anyway, I am glad you found some peace this Sunday in ministering to others!Heatherhttp://www.heathermohr.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-25632557628476715662010-01-13T07:35:40.361-05:002010-01-13T07:35:40.361-05:00It feels good to reach out to someone else who'...It feels good to reach out to someone else who's in the throes of grief and offer them your understanding, doesn't it? It almost makes our pain have a purpose. I love that you're honoring Carleigh by using the experience of losing her to help others - and I'll bet she loves that, too. ((hugs))Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02100182709422069894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-91006531578613043372010-01-13T01:11:03.124-05:002010-01-13T01:11:03.124-05:00I'm so glad that you could reach out to someon...I'm so glad that you could reach out to someone else and help them. Sometimes just that Hug or a simple smile can help so much.I know that saying to well. There is always that person gone and nothing is totally complete. I do hope church gets easier for you. You are such a wonderful person and I think w/all you have been through you are doing great. Sending you some {{HUGS}}<br />CarolineCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698815527301107339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-34632819892594177202010-01-13T00:41:08.229-05:002010-01-13T00:41:08.229-05:00Hugs are the best. I am so glad you were able to u...Hugs are the best. I am so glad you were able to use your broken heart to help someone else's. <br /><br />XO<br /><br />Oh, and yes church is just plain hard. I haven't quite figured it out either.Franchescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08362049658761399255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-84404954970066204542010-01-12T22:48:51.341-05:002010-01-12T22:48:51.341-05:00Kind of chokes me up to read about it. I don'...Kind of chokes me up to read about it. I don't think time can take away loss and too many people like to tell those who have lost that it will. You are sweet to have gone to her. I think too many people feel we have to 'say' something about a person's situation in order to be in their presence and sometimes a hug or hello or even just a smile can help lift their spirits, even if just a little bit. We all need to start reaching out in compassion to those around us. We need to be more aware, like you were. I hope this Sunday is better for you and for your new friend.Karihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04501434850909597503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-28768911147773045312010-01-12T22:36:11.666-05:002010-01-12T22:36:11.666-05:00I think that this is what I'm missing. Thank y...I think that this is what I'm missing. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-64293855569861089862010-01-12T22:30:33.514-05:002010-01-12T22:30:33.514-05:00Grief is such an amazing thing. In my own experie...Grief is such an amazing thing. In my own experience I believe it can help me and those around me if I let it. And quite the opposite too. Thanks for reminding me to let the grief help.chadandnikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16910288209862052652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-74968930905096925862010-01-12T21:33:19.856-05:002010-01-12T21:33:19.856-05:00Sometimes I have a hard time going back to our chu...Sometimes I have a hard time going back to our church in Findlay, because I see Andy's casket where the communion table is and I remember his funeral, instead of paying attention to the sermon. I am so glad you were able to comfort someone else in your time of need. You have a wonderful gift Holly! Keep using it for God!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00806555904744459892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-13192303633029206042010-01-12T21:29:52.331-05:002010-01-12T21:29:52.331-05:00Really neat reading about you noticing that lady w...Really neat reading about you noticing that lady who was upset and hugging her! I don't like the social aspect of church (the greeting time) because I feel like it puts a spotlight on me for sitting alone. Maybe if I looked outward like you did this day, I could find someone else who is sitting alone who'd appreciate having someone to sit with too. ~DebbieDebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12448140232721222635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-91121218698971243482010-01-12T21:26:37.197-05:002010-01-12T21:26:37.197-05:00It is truly nice to know that God is reaching out ...It is truly nice to know that God is reaching out to you through you helping others in their need. Yes, it may be the Sundays that hit you the most but what better place-in GOD'S house where he can give you comfort. I am o proud of you for reaching out to someone else in their moment of grief and pain. God is still working on you and through you. Keep the Faith my dear daughter, he will never leave or forsake you!Mom Putnamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18025416243046851236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-6009916128921801352010-01-12T20:58:35.681-05:002010-01-12T20:58:35.681-05:00How nice to be able to comfort someone else. I hav...How nice to be able to comfort someone else. I have the hardest time in church too. Sometimes I just don't go and I feel so quilty for not going. Maybe insted of feeling sorry for myself I can try to reach out to someone else like you did. You are such a wonderful person. I know she must have been so touched that someone else noticed her pain and acknowledge it. :o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com