tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post253834094735564981..comments2023-11-16T07:27:50.279-05:00Comments on Caring for Carleigh: More from yesterdayHollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-72580041641902955562009-12-07T00:05:09.742-05:002009-12-07T00:05:09.742-05:00I am sure the person was coming from a place of lo...I am sure the person was coming from a place of love and concern, but I still think you have done an amazing job of being positive and encouraging to others at a time when you should be the one getting the encouragement.<br />I know you and Carleigh have touched many lives for the better!<br /> I just don't want you to think its not OK to be sad at times. ((hugs))Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00578525668538181284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-53157652207956622492009-12-06T20:57:08.796-05:002009-12-06T20:57:08.796-05:00Well said, dear friend...
It sounds like you have...Well said, dear friend...<br /><br />It sounds like you have things in very good perspective. <br /><br />Love to you...Kelly @ Sufficient Grace Ministrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182310611088290551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-68215877903767437882009-12-06T20:45:35.928-05:002009-12-06T20:45:35.928-05:00I think you are doing an awesome job handling your...I think you are doing an awesome job handling your grief...MUCH better than I EVER think I would. I look up to you because of how you have your situation. Do I think you're perfect and that you dont have down days, or weeks, or months....No. You arent Jesus. You're Holly. A human. God doesnt think poorly of you for how you are handling this...I think He would be very pleased with you and how you are dealing. I know I am proud of you and we have never met. <br /><br />I dont know how to put all that is in my mind in words...but I think you get the point. You are fine. You have dealt better than anyone else I know would have.Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08934057308054901761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-21052930591119826752009-12-06T14:44:03.888-05:002009-12-06T14:44:03.888-05:00You are an amazing woman, and I am learning so muc...You are an amazing woman, and I am learning so much from you. There is nothing wrong with choosing to be sad some days - God gave us all of our emotions, even the "sad" and "angry" ones, and I believe He fully expects us to use them. I also refuse to think of them as negative emotions. It is what we do with those emotions that matters.Heatherhttp://www.heathermohr.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-62039193094673817232009-12-06T12:44:32.432-05:002009-12-06T12:44:32.432-05:00We have to live, so we have to smile and bring som...We have to live, so we have to smile and bring some joy into our lives. But you are right, the pain is lurking right there snd comes out at strange times in strange places.Akul's mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02731802741502891348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-16266650866098775962009-12-05T23:29:48.514-05:002009-12-05T23:29:48.514-05:00Holly, I just want to let you know I am encouraged...Holly, I just want to let you know I am encouraged and moved by your outlook. I have said it before, but it makes all the difference. The thought that you have provoked has been with me most of today and last night. Actually the Lord has been dealing with me with just being content. Let me just say, it is a battle. Thank you for your transparency and open heart. I know that it will be better one day, and I can already see traces of healing in my life as I remember those shocking moments of disbelief that kept me from just losing it. Our God is so good to just keep working on us.<br /><br />xoxoFranchescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08362049658761399255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-50027626934244404682009-12-05T21:39:00.160-05:002009-12-05T21:39:00.160-05:00Holly, you are doing so well!!! Your faith in God...Holly, you are doing so well!!! Your faith in God is strong and you are shining for Him. Grief is an important process that we have to go through and it's ok to let ourselves feel sorrow. <br /><br />You are doing so good.Joyefulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16443282683969037813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-80395015759158278432009-12-05T21:37:51.347-05:002009-12-05T21:37:51.347-05:00I know that I have said it many times before but I...I know that I have said it many times before but I enjoy your posts and how very strong you are. I know I didn't know you before only online but Carleigh's story has helped me through some of my grief w/my losses. I just wanta thank-you for sharing Carleigh and yourself with others. I know that life is hard but God is good and he will carry and see us through anything.<br />{{HUGS}}<br />CarolineCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698815527301107339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-15820438652246655092009-12-05T21:33:58.829-05:002009-12-05T21:33:58.829-05:00Well, good grief, what can I say since my Mom said...Well, good grief, what can I say since my Mom said it all?! :) Love you Holls!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00806555904744459892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-48247036253727394712009-12-05T19:16:21.962-05:002009-12-05T19:16:21.962-05:00Just read your last post and it was so moving, tha...Just read your last post and it was so moving, thank you for sharing :)<br /><br />The email you received reiterates to me that those who love us feel as if they have lost us and long for the "old version" of us back. However, unless you walk this path you have no understanding of the pain that follows...pain that you do learn to live with, but never forget. We have to tell those who love us that we are living in our "new normal" and are "revised versions of our old selves.<br /><br />I think you are doing amazingly well and stand in awe of your grace.<br /><br />Love and Hugs xoxoAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06709001842788289402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-60269919121058526242009-12-05T18:59:30.751-05:002009-12-05T18:59:30.751-05:00You are so positive! It does take everything and ...You are so positive! It does take everything and then some to write what that person wrote, obviously he cares deeply for you and we need those people in our lives! Thank you for sharing.<br />NicolleChristmas with Kaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04046209441729981789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-56825093734552891212009-12-05T18:09:58.210-05:002009-12-05T18:09:58.210-05:00Holly-
Every post that I read from you, makes me ...Holly-<br /><br />Every post that I read from you, makes me feel there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My loss is still so fresh in my mind, but every time I read an update from you it makes me want to put my life on track and not be in the dark corner of a room. You inspire me to find the person I was before loosing my daughter and of course tweak that person a bit to be me, but me who now has an angel watching over her. I know in my heart my daughter would not want me to live a life of sorrow, she wouldn't want that for her sisters nor her daddy. I want to thank you for your blog I'm so glad I found it. My prayers and thoughts are always with you.pixie2183https://www.blogger.com/profile/06930966439441806745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-87009028004586676592009-12-05T18:08:43.533-05:002009-12-05T18:08:43.533-05:00Holly, this is a powerful post.
Thank you for shar...Holly, this is a powerful post.<br />Thank you for sharing yourself and your feelings with us. God Bless.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-38433860630871237422009-12-05T17:55:11.050-05:002009-12-05T17:55:11.050-05:00It took so much strength from both of you in this ...It took so much strength from both of you in this whole situation. I have been on the letter writing side of this story and it's hard - collaberating your thoughts and finding the right way to say the "harsh reality" without ruining the friendship/relationship you already have. I wish that the person would have been as receptive as you are with the letter. <br /><br />I still think you are an amazing person. I did not know you before Carleigh or Jordan, but I think you have been postive and uplifting to so many of us out there griefing. Of course we can't be happy and carefree all of the time. That would not be natural. That is where those posts come from - the ones where we pour out our grieving hearts.<br /><br />Thinking of you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14063286199824069226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-34611108977431579422009-12-05T17:15:51.505-05:002009-12-05T17:15:51.505-05:00Even though this is Carleighs web I want to say a ...Even though this is Carleighs web I want to say a HUGE "Thank you" to Beth for the wonderful post you wrote. As usual you had me in uncontrollable tears and it all started with the sentence of the marathon and it flowed from there. You just know what to say and you have helped me so much, more than you will know. I lean on you for the comfort when i break and I am glad you are willing to be there for me. You are right when you said it comes in waves, and there are times it is hard for me to know what to do or when to do it. I feel sometimes that my life has changed too,the journey of the grandparent is so rewarding but it has it's black days tooadn i feel like I am in a pit sometimes and cant get out. I am thankful that the pit is small . Thank you for being there for me not just as a cousin but as a dear friend. Holly, my dear daughter, I have said it before and say it again, you are MY life and cant imagine it without you nor do I want to. I love you more than I can ever say and know that I am here for you whenever you need to talk, cry, or just hug. Sometimes I need that too and there is noone around. You are my prcious daughter and hope the Lord watches over you all the days of your life and helps you each and every one of them.Mom Putnamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18025416243046851236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-28085321687483831302009-12-05T16:43:01.523-05:002009-12-05T16:43:01.523-05:00I love your posts, Holly. You always have such a g...I love your posts, Holly. You always have such a good way of looking at things and wording what you mean. I wish I were as eloquent.Kellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04261863734308184963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-54110846971504195712009-12-05T16:31:28.325-05:002009-12-05T16:31:28.325-05:00I missed your last post, but read it so that I kne...I missed your last post, but read it so that I knew what you were writing about. It truly can be so painful, but you still are able to find happiness in your life. The loss becomes that of an open wound and you continue to nurture that wound so that it doesn't hurt so bad. It never heals, but it gets easier to "live" with. If that makes any sense? I know that you already know what I'm talking about;)<br /><br />JennyJennifer Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619769165667422761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-39380425610747600522009-12-05T16:23:32.582-05:002009-12-05T16:23:32.582-05:00Just another testament to your awesome-ness. :) Re...Just another testament to your awesome-ness. :) Remember, you still have every right to have your sad moments, days, weeks, ect...Breehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03894396436704042272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-48146449684925266272009-12-05T14:20:50.588-05:002009-12-05T14:20:50.588-05:00I did read your entire entry yesterday and I wante...I did read your entire entry yesterday and I wanted to comment when I had more than a minute to do so... I think you have been doing an amazing job of not only grieving your daughter's loss, but also honoring her life in a beautiful way. You have been able to see the true gift that she was, a gift that not only brought your family utter sadness in her loss, but HAPPINESS in the precious addition that she will forever be to your family. You have an amazing outlook.... And I have looked up to you since before I even knew the fate of my own daughter. Of course we can't be happy all the time given our circumstances, but I just want you to know that there have been many times that I've been at the bottom of the pit of despair, and I've looked to you and your attutide to brings things back into perspective. One thing I've learned about this grief is that it comes in waves... Some days I think I'm getting ahead and working through it, and then suddenly there is a period of time that takes me back to the debilitating pain and sense of loss that makes me question how I can live my life forever with this weight on my chest.<br />((hugs))lost--for--wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16827450173540309696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-25265172171892168672009-12-05T13:58:04.643-05:002009-12-05T13:58:04.643-05:00The person who wrote the e-mail obviously deeply c...The person who wrote the e-mail obviously deeply cares for you. Your acceptance of what he wrote and your positive reaction shows what a wonderful person you truly are. Thank you for sharing this with us Holly! xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-36232886435067678122009-12-05T12:14:56.184-05:002009-12-05T12:14:56.184-05:00Lots of *hugs*Lots of *hugs*Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134970929000997104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-58253594142212610022009-12-05T12:10:09.140-05:002009-12-05T12:10:09.140-05:00Holly, I knew that there would be moments in your ...Holly, I knew that there would be moments in your life where you would break down , this is a natural thing. As I loook at you in this process of life , I understand how God woroks through people and puts us through things in our lives to help others. And certainly you and Anthony and Kyndra and Carleigh and Jordon has help others through your life journey. It always amazes me that a small miracle can have such an impact on others lives. When I look at Emekka I wonder about Carleigh and I start to cry. But it is okay to do that .I know that she is okay now with God and family in heaven. I wish the very best for you and your family. When you were little, you was such a joy to me as to Katrina too. And I love you both like you was my own. Your pain, joy and sense of life matters to me and I truly can say that through this it has made me thankful for the small things in life. And to continue my quest in helping others. To bring joy to others whether it's a hand, a conversation and just a warm hello or a hug. To bring a smile on ones face is the blessed way to feel loved. I to was one who was worried about you but I know in my heart and faith that you will be able take one day at a time and get through this slowly and in your time. You are an amazing woman of God. Your parents raised you well and you can tell you were muched loved by many. For it shows how you treat others, and that your love for others shine through. I am proud of you and know that your are a wonderful,loving wife and mother. Take care and God Bless you and those around you that a piece of your life has touch and will be touched. Many blessings to you. <br />Love You, Aunt NAncyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-78389153848830548022009-12-05T10:33:18.557-05:002009-12-05T10:33:18.557-05:00Your strength is beautiful, Holly. HUGS.Your strength is beautiful, Holly. HUGS.Mother Knows Best Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07127811116486063201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3142944844041536061.post-25228479713100267802009-12-05T10:26:37.759-05:002009-12-05T10:26:37.759-05:00Holly, What a journey you have been given. I can w...Holly, What a journey you have been given. I can well remember the early days and months after Andy died when I kept saying "Why?" finally my grief counselor said while my questioning was normal, perhaps I was asking the wrong question. I may never know why (that's for God) maybe the question I needed to learn to ask was "What?" What am I to learn, What does God need from me? I confess that at first it only made me angry (and I had a lot of anger that surfaced from time to time)but I can honestly say that all these years later, I am at peace not knowing the Why and I am still learning the What. It's been more than 10 years since my son died and there's not a single day that goes by that he's not thought of and remembered. Some days there are tears, some laughter, some joy..... You are formed by this experience but it doen't completely define you. There will be times when Kyndra has an experience that you can't help but think "I miss Carleigh" or even when/if you and Anthony are blessed to have another child it will be a bittersweet moment. You have been chosen for this journey and even though it's the hardest most difficult horrible experience you may ever have, I think you are succeeding. It's a marathon not a sprint, take your time, be kind to yourself and know, really know that God is in control. It's not fair but you need to help pave the way for your family, they aren't on the same path although they can see the road you are walking. It's a path running parallel to them and it's all new. Until Carleigh, you may have all been walking the same "road of life" together, since Carleigh, you are now on an unfamiliar walk with Anthony and it's dark and scary. Trust me when I say that there will be glimpses of light along the way (and with light also comes darkness) You will never be the "Old Holly" but rather a Holly that has experienced first hand the harsh reality of this world, that children die. I think this Holly will have more compassion, more understanding and more time for others. This Holly will not hold back when another woman steps on this path, this Holly will offer a hug, a hand, a tissue, and this Holly will not hesitate to listen (when there are no words to comfort). This Holly will continue to believe that God holds the whole world in His hands. I love you Holly and while I would never choose this journey for any person, I am honored to have you walk this path alongside of me and the many other people who have loved a child and had to say goodbye too soon.Molly's Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05428824386352310451noreply@blogger.com